One bad day of being under the weather sends me off the fucking rails. I just want to be able to cope with normal ups and downs like I did before.
Well I’m not exactly sure what this is all about but once the idea occurred to me I couldn’t help but to draw it.
YOU AND I BOTH, LADY
We know this family, they’re really good folks who got screwed over. The husband and wife are Guatemalan citizens. Both of their children were born in the US and have US citizenship. They immigrated completely legally, spurred partly by threats Erick received when he was working in government. They kept on top of everything as best as they could here and were really shocked and confused when they had to appear in court to address some paperwork that they had missed ages ago but weren’t notified about until it would lead to their deportation (I was at that initial hearing in like 2005 or 2006, and it was hard to not stomp out angrily, the US government representative spent a lot of the time just making demeaning remarks about the supposed character of these two people for being confused about the crazy maze of paperwork they had been subjected to). Their children had the opportunity to continue living in the US with their uncle who had US citizenship, but this was really hard for such young kids to decide at the time, so eventually they just moved back to Guatemala with their folks after repeatedly fighting their case for years. Their daughter has decided to come back here and live with her uncle to have better education. The parents took an offer of voluntary departure after another trial so that they would not have to be deported, allowing them a quicker process to obtain a visa to return.
Their visa actually HAS been approved for months, but they’re now being told it may take up to five more years for it to actually be issued to them. They deserve that visa ASAP.
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Goat coats or sweaters are actually useful and often necessary to keep goats safe and warm… the bonus is that they’re also ADORABLE.
I guess this psychologist is a nice lady. I kinda just ugly-cried on her couch for an hour, so I don’t really know if I gave her much room to talk about stuff. Scheduled an appointment for next week with the task of writing down specific things I want to talk about, I guess that’s standard. My parents and boyfriend both told me to keep them “updated” with what I’m doing in therapy, but she advised against telling them the content of sessions, which I had a gut feeling about but also didn’t feel confident about asserting. So I feel better about giving them a big ol’ NOAP if/when they ask (yet I’m putting this part on the internets? I dunno maybe I’m doing this wrong).
She was in line with the doctor I saw about not filling the antidepressant prescription yet, too, said I shouldn’t do that unless a psychiatrist advised me to (if I ever even get referred along that way). So I will resist temptation.
Hi! Sorry for not responding immediately. Hooray, and yep it’s amazing when you’ve been without bras for a while and then try one on out of curiosity and it’s just like “WHAT THE FUCK IS THIS?! UGH THIS IS TERRIBLE, TAKE IT AWAY.” Cannot go back…
I am kind of lazy, so ideally I would take photos and show you what I wear (because maybe my descriptive abilities will fail me), but I’ll try to link you to some examples. My main thing is I just go for stretchy fabrics that just kind of round out the boob in place, rather than pushing it up anywhere.
Stretchy tank tops are your best friends. Some people go for shelf bra tanks, but even those are uncomfortable for me, so I just go with plain ones. I’ll link you to some examples, a lot tend to be cotton-spandex blends. These are not necessarily the places where I got mine (I actually shudder at how I’m linking to American Apparel), but it’s such a basic and common thing, you can pretty much find them in all women’s apparel nowadays, often in really cool colors and different necklines and lengths.
These are great for layering under lighter/floatier/more transparent fabric, or if you don’t have a problem with nipple bumps, they’re fine just as they are. So you can literally wear them with anything, under blouses, under other tanks, under tees, under dresses, etc.
There are a lot of pretty crop top/”bralette” things out and about as well, so those work just as their own top, not even as a base layer like the stretchy tanks often are, and as long as they don’t have a weird built-in bra structure, it’s usually just a fitted top kind of feel, boobs are free do do their thing, etc (and props to UO in that link for using a model with slightly larger boobs to model it). A lot of them are made of similarly stretchy material, so they just do the same thing as the stretchy tanks, just looking fancier. Some shorter, more bra-shaped ones are marketed as bralettes or bustiers, but as long as they’re very comfortable, soft material and a large enough size to not restrict movement, they’re really comfy.
I’m not a huge fan of bandeau “bras’ or tops, because they do a weird smooshy thing to my boobs, they’re just kind of uncomfortable and annoying to deal with and adjust all the time, and that’s one of the reasons I stopped wearing bras.
The closest thing to a supportive bra that I wear is occasionally when I wear a mesh/lace bralette. I make sure to get a size up what I would otherwise probably be “correctly” sized for, just to ensure being comfortable and moving around. The reasons I have three of these (three different colors, two different shapes) is just because of nicer occasions when I don’t feel like having to explain why I’m not wearing a bra, so I basically wear a bra-thing. They smooth/shape a little more than my standard stretchy tanks, but they’re loose and comfortable enough for me to wear for a day.
Also, in general, lower necklines are my thing! I have a long torso and a bigger chest, so higher necklines just make me look weirdly long in the boob/chest. So even with less fitted tops and dresses, I prefer things with V or scoop neck, and sometimes it’s low enough that I just don’t wear anything under them at all.
If you want, I can post some pictures later with examples of how I wear these things (considering a lot of the photos are of models with smaller breasts/some sort of bra support underneath), especially with warm-weather clothes. BUT I AM LAZY RIGHT NOW. But thanks for the ask! :D
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